Finding the Words to Fit It

There is an idea current in the prevailing culture that writing about something that pains you heals the pain. I was not, when I began writing my life story, and am not now, healed of my mother. But you do gain a small distance from anything by keeping it in suspension in your mind while you work at finding the words to fit it. The process is so slow and incremental that you don't notice its effect, but the point is that it is a process.

Source: Almost There: the Onward Journey of a Dublin Woman, a Memoir by Nuala O'Faolain

clipped April 12, 2003

Collection: Philosophy